Queering the Jewish Wedding

The aims of this project are to in-gather and archive Queer-Jewish weddings and union ceremonies of all kinds, interview the folks who crafted them, and create a video artwork and expansive resource from what's been shared.
If you have had, have officiated, or are planning a Queer-Jewish wedding, we'd love your contribution!

Project Values*

  • Diversity: of cultural and national backgrounds, of denominations and Jewish practice, of gender makeup, age and ability!

  • Radical Inclusivity: that this project be legible, usable, accessible and remain a living document

  • Queer Lineages: being positive Queer-ancestors and Queer-descendants; highlighting and documenting Queer-centric and Queer-honouring life cycle ceremonies as an essential part of building the Queer future; archiving significant Queer-Jewish experiences for posterity to honour the Queer past

About The Archivist

Hello beloved Jewish community!
My name is Toby King and I am poet, performer, and educator born and raised in Tkaronto. I am currently a student at the University of Toronto and a teacher at the Danforth Jewish School. I consider myself a lover of stories, a seeker of justice, and a student of Torah. I am deeply invested in the unimaginable and inevitable Queer-Jewish Future.

Submit Videos and Photos to the Archive

An aim of the project is to create an archive of Queer-Jewish weddings and union ceremonies of every kind. We hope to document a wide range and scope of ceremonies across spectrums of cultures, denominations, and gender variance. That means interfaith partnerships, trans and nonbinary partnerships, Mizrachi ceremonies, Orthodox ceremonies, Reconstructionist ceremonies, etc. If it was in some way Queer and in some way Jewish, whatever that means to you, we want to see it!

Schedule an Interview

If you have had or have officiated a Queer-Jewish union ceremony or wedding of any kind, we want to talk to you!

* This project is a work in progress, headed by one person with a limited perspective and limited time and resources. There will be times I fail to meet its stated values, but I am always striving to do better. If there are gaps in this site that have excluded your identity or experience, please let me know so we can better reflect and include you.